I will be happy when…? If you’re wondering how to be happier, that’s where you usually start.
We can all fall prey to the idea that when things are different then we will finally be happy! The problem with that outlook is that life is full of challenges and we can end up waiting for that elusive time before living fully.
No matter what sort of difficulty you may be struggling with, what we focus on is where our attention will go. We only have so much emotional capacity and attention to give in a day so being aware of where we are putting it is key.
What we focus on or visualise vividly is what we will start to seek out in the environment.
When we can start to direct our attention to making tiny changes and start defining what the measures of our success or healing will look like, we can start to get a sense of regaining control. We can ‘internalise’ and visualise what we will be doing, what things will be like, how we want to feel and this will help create a template for the future you.
Talk in terms of:
When things improve…
As things start to get better…
As I move through this challenge, I will also notice…
Write down how things will be different as they improve, make a plan and the steps you could take. We can not always change a situation but we can make adjustments to our environment and how we view a situation that can help transition through the challenge.
I hope that helps,
Lee 🙂
